Truth and Relationships

Truth is a value promoted from the Antiquity, next to Beauty and Good, but in time it is less and less appreciated and told. People have different visions and reactions concerning speaking the truth, specially the unpleasant one. In other words, our personality and character have a main influence in taking the decision to reveal the truth.

We have to keep the truth among our life’s top values and share it with any communication partner because – firstly, by not telling it, we could create misunderstanding and secondly, after one lie easily comes another one. The problem is how to tell a delicate truth in any circumstance, to any person and how to avoid the first impulse of hiding it. The answer is with a right and responsible attitude.

Generally, the pleasant truth is said directly, but when it comes to the unpleasant one, we take one step back from many reasons: the lack of courage, low self-esteem, concern for others feeling, fear for the consequences such as rejection, fear to assume the responsibility for our thoughts and actions and also the interest for the benefit that certain relationship provide us.

So when our thoughts about others are critical (but constructive), we usually adopt two ways to act. Many of us prefer to keep inside the critical opinion on others and dissimulate. Other ones choose a better way by saying the truth subtle, using a diplomatic manner and expecting some one to discover and understand the real meaning. In this case, the person should possess excellent speaking skills.

Sometimes the subtle way is the best choice but we never have to give up on speaking the Truth as unpleasant as could be because open communication always represents a step forward in human development. Sooner or later a person who says an unpleasant truth will be appreciated, but thinking something and saying other or nothing will make the situation even worse. Never forget to speak the Truth! – Psychologist, Nicoleta Cramaruc