Anywhere there are people, there are also conflicts. The presence of conflicts in our life is inevitable because persons are not the same. There’s not even one person identical with another one. Things as primary needs, different values, perceptions or interests, limited resources and psychological needs makes us to react differently in social relationships.
As long as conflict remains unconscious it can’t be resolved. When people start being aware of each signal of it, conflict eventually will became obvious. So how do we recognize the imminence of a clash?
There are a few elements which mark the stages of a conflict’s evolution. The first sign is the discomfort revealed by the intuition that something is not right but we don’t know exactly what. The next one is the incident consisting in little disturbing facts over the day. Then comes the misunderstanding caused by inappropriate conclusions, the tension and finally the crisis which represent the obvious manifestation of the conflict.
Once we identify the conflict we have to be determined to solve it. The five most known strategies to tackle a conflict are:
1. The Abandon – the physical and emotional retreat from the conflict;
2. The Repression – the refuse to become aware of the conflict;
3. Victory – Defeat Strategy – which means that the conflict is controlled only by one part using the power, domination and hierarchical system;
4. The Compromise – directly negotiation, each part trying to win something;
5. Victory – Victory Strategy – the parts become partners not enemies and every one is concerned for other one’s wealth.
From all the strategies mentioned, the recommended one is the victory-victory strategy because it promotes the idea of finding together the solution and improves the relationship. Even if it is the right strategy to apply, it doesn’t mean it’s often used today. So we have to pay more attention to our ways of dealing with a conflict! – Psychologist, Nicoleta Cramaruc