In general, this collocation is related to the attitude of people to prefer a well-known situation, a similar behavior, a common idea, a job where they worked before and which suppose well-known activities.
In a few words, we are feeling comfortable in common situations rather than in those that are new for us, even if we are in search for new. Why … because the new imply change and the change involves a new process of adjustment and effort. Generally, at the base of this resistance stand the “obedient behavior” and the faithfulness to our comfortable believes, convictions and mentality.
Why are we having this reaction to the change? All that is new around us, makes us less confident and more skeptics regarding what could involve un unknown situation, it might presume taking all kind of “risks” and responsibilities. An answer for this question is the primary need of human being to be and to feel safe and also our wish for a “convenient life”. What we know well to do at work, in domestic and social life, in relationships always gives us a reassuring feeling.
Knowing that the permanent resistance to the change becomes an obstacle in our personality development, how can we overtake it? On one hand, a solution is to take care of our self-esteem and self-confidence. On the other hand, to stimulate our need to prosper, to excel in everything we do and to build what is the best for us and others. To do all this we have to be opened to any change as “hard” as could seem.
Beyond defining the causes and finding the solutions, the most important thing is to become conscious of our reactions to new situations and to try to behave more confident, to be more active. The variety of lived situations gives us the knowledge and ability to quickly adjust to the new ones. – Psychologist Nicoleta Cramaruc