Our imagination is a powerful psychological tool. This tool may work for our bad, if we aren’t conscious about its power and its activity. We can use this tool for our good, if we understand its power and discipline this power.
If you ask people what they wish, they’ll focus mostly on what they doesn’t have rather than what they have yet (they doesn’t wish anymore what they have yet). In the same way, many people tend to ignore what is good in their life and notice only what go bad.
Most of the couples don’t feel as happy as at the beginning of their relationship, because of this kind of thinking.
Many people use their imagination selectively. They use it to visualize only those events that make them feel bad. Instead of waiting until they discover proofs that their partner has an affair, some even begin to imagine their lover having an affair. This is a very effective way to become jealous and make your and your partner life a nightmare.
As a consequence of this negative and selective use of mental visualization you’ll get a bad disposition, begin making critics and reproaches, then nagging or even estranging from your partner. Therefore, as a consequence of this consequence, what you have imagined become reality. This is called a negative self-fulfilling prophecy.
Tip: It would be more constructive to select or create (with the power of your mental visualization) positive thoughts and images, in which you and your partner are feeling well. In this way you may build a positive self-fulfilling prophecy.